Why Do Popular, Attractive, and Talented People Commit Suicide? – Chester Bennington

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At the foot of this blog are more blogs about Suicide I used to cover when I blogged, this is not me starting to blog again, I needed help to write most of this. But it’s a subject that needs talked about. Remember everyone ‘Regret is only regret when we allow regret to be the ever-lasting emotion’. The reality of Suicide and the recent death of Linkin Park lead singer Chester Bennington is he was RICH, FAMOUS, FUNNY! Everything most people want to be, yet here he is SPEAKING ABOUT HIS MIND, something he did a lot. In the interview in the video at the foot of this page the TRIGGERS of suicide were there for all to see, yet here we are again asking “Could we have done more”, and this leads to the question “Why is this still so Taboo”? Never is there an intervention, always regret and that is so sad. One song from MANY done by Linking Park and sung by Chester was ‘Rolling in the Deep’ a cover song done by Adele, not a song you would ever expect Chester to take on, yet he did and he nailed it. I will share 4 videos here, 2 songs and 2 videos of Chester as the man we knew away from being rich, famous, liked, loved more

Rolling In The Deep Cover Chester Bennington
Via Numael Roldan on You Tube

Behind all the sadness we MUST see the fun side of people. Chester said in the video at the top “When I am alone with my mind “It is like I should not be there, and Music is my ONLY escape” And I say these exact words about Music to ANYONE who will listen to my ranting. Chester found his stage to OUT his demons, but sadly it wasn’t enough. So I leave you with the good memory of another person LEFT ALONE with people guessing before and after he killed himself. Celebrate the life, but ask “How can we get this Taboo gone and help people” I myself think “Suicide” from time to time as it’s part of my ongoing circumstances that WE ALL HAVE, but in me saying this, does it help? Answer, no! I would be called pathetic and weak and bad as I have kids and loved ones. But Chester was a fun lad, here is the proof

Chester Bennington – Unforgettable Funny Moments
Via Sarah_Lia on You Tube

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Below is what Linkin Park did, this is the type of songs they sung, they were amazing

In The End (Official Video) – Linkin Park
Via Linkin Park on You Tube

In this video from an interview in Feb ’17 shows Chester Bennington expressing his cries for help. Hindsight is 20/20. At the time the interviewer and fans alike joked at his comments. Looking back, it’s clearly not a joking matter. Mental illness is a very serious issue, that is not to be over looked. It can take all forms. People you know may be going through similar situations. So next time you have someone pour their heart out to you, really listen to what they are saying. It may be a cry for help….. This is not a promo for WakingUpDad or WakingUpDad.net …. I am simply posting this as a long time fan of Chester and the group Linkin Park. I am just as shocked as everyone else and searching for answers as to why. In the video he clearly is telling us. We just didn’t listen. RIP Chester Bennington. You will be missed. Prayers to his family, wife and kids.

Chester Bennington’s cry for HELP! Linkin Park
Via Waking Up Dad on You Tube

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THIS DOES NOT REPRESENT ALL DISABLED PEOPLE

THIS DOES NOT REPRESENT ALL DISABLED PEOPLE

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Poem: Learning to be a parent

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Just my views on learning to be a parent. We never stop learning. Always I have people say “Shaun, you think too deeply” Yet sometimes people say “Shaun you hit that guy a bit hard” You get it all in life. Often, me, just me, I feel like I don’t belong on this Earth with this species, this species makes no sense to me. I am a watcher, I observe in the same way Billy Connolly or any people like him do and then show it in my way. Often I sit alone in my car in a traffic jam and I see people, almost everyone is unhappy. But once in a while someone smiles back. This doesn’t mean we found a new friend or a new love, it’s a person finding a person just like them. I used to think I was unique, different, but for the wrong reasons. It took a wise man and a wise woman to teach me being different isn’t always a bad thing. Today I smile, tomorrow is a guess, yesterday is gone.

Wiz Khalifa – See You Again ft. Charlie Puth
Via Wiz Khalifa on You Tube

I see people STRUGGLE through life as I walk it, well walk when I can 😀 But really what is it with people? Some show so much emotion it’s untrue. Singer song writers do it the most, people we pay to hear or see. Movie stars too. But when it comes to our own lives all that magical love goes away. This is the question I ask today. I do it with a smile, I do it with love and a protective wing. Why are people so ugly inside? I  guess one day that question will be answered. For now I am a poet and I certainly don’t know it..

You seen the light, I picked you up

Had to ask, silly me. There I was

You in my arms, a kid with a kid

I wouldn’t change a thing, ever

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You grew up and made me do the same

Often I think ‘Shame’ as it had to end this way

Tomorrow the love is the same, it’s just different

I wouldn’t change a thing, ever

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Every time you fell I picked you up

When you failed I said try again

When you won I said well done

I wouldn’t change a thing, ever

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Being a parent isn’t easy, that I learn

The loss hits you, really hurts.

You found a love I did once

I wouldn’t change a thing, ever

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6 became 5 and 5 will become 4

It hits you hard and it’s hard to stand

The World screams coward, I see love

I wouldn’t change a thing, ever

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It takes a man to cry they say

So today I am that man, I am happy

All I hope and pray is you stay happy

I wouldn’t change a thing, ever

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When the winds of time they do change

They pick us up and scatter us afar

Took my breath away, but we learn

I wouldn’t change a thing, ever

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Now 6 to 4 and we change our aim

Never say shame, never be unhappy

Be happy you were there, not what is lost

I wouldn’t change a thing, ever

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My focus changes, I cry a lot, honestly

People say men shouldn’t cry, I don’t

Challenge me with your anger and you lose

I wouldn’t change a thing, ever

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Life is the anger, not people. Confusion reigns

Sit down, shut up, have a drink, then smile again

Two little girls are now my keep, because I think deep

I wouldn’t change a thing, ever

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Know I love you all, but I need to go now

I need a new view, new ways, I dream a lot

Today I live my dreams, you are here and welcome

I wouldn’t change a thing, ever

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Someone said they would change a loved one

I ask that person to not change, be you, remain you

Life can change us all, the person who loved you

Well they loved you for the way you are today, don’t change

If things need changed, I will change them………

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THE HUMAN MIND, FEELINGS, EMOTIONS AND CHRONIC PAIN ‘IF YOU HAVE THAT’

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Picture1By @ShaunyGibson – Used to be @ ShaunyNews

When you sit and try to define your purpose on this Earth when you ask who and what you are, we all do this. The irony is many will dismiss that they do this, so go look at that image above again, see it? When you are in a state of TOTAL feeling, at one with yourself and life and the universe, you care. When you care you hurt more, it comes with the packaging. I see so many people afraid to ‘Feel’ because they refuse to take on the burden that comes with it, that would be hurt or loss, whatever, you know? People refusing to go the full way and be true to themselves in fear they might get too close to something. I am not afraid of dying, I am afraid of dying now and leaving my partner too 8ea41f8ff202634e3ff7445fd86ae973 (1)soon. To get to that way of thinking an ‘Event’ must happen. For me the event happened in childhood and guides me now as an adult, in reality it is amazing, many call it God, I just call it amazing, superb, a blessing, lucky and other such words. When I say this to a friend who knows I live in utter agony they say “How can this be, you are Disabled and in pain” To get something we must first lose something. It can be the death of a person, the death of a habit, to forget someone or something, whatever it is, you need to lose before you feel what many like me do and see our World for what it really is, it’s a total hell hole in every sense of the word, but we do as individuals show and see act’s of love and kindness from others, but to gain we lose first, we must lose to get, for me it’s THAT SIMPLE, I was lost for a long time, it was lonely and hard, but all the time my partner and 2 sons were there, now here I am, smiling, happier than I have ever been, why? Because I lose BADLY. So not much else to lose here, so I love what I have and understand that, the pain will do what it will, so I choose life

Song made from the an Irvine Welsh book, then the movie Trainspotting  For those outside the UK who don’t know this Movie 
Part 1 – The beginning

Part 2 – The end…. Both filmed in my City, Edinburgh, Scotland

We all deny our own existence, many of us are wide awake and watching, listening and learning, I am one of these guys. I had a friends, 17 years a friend may I add, she is from Columbus120380-118513 Ohio in the US of A. She said “Shaun has changed” She wasn’t being nasty or rude, far from it. But I felt in an instant ‘Friends don’t do this’ What this is, is she stopped being my friend. When I got my (YES, YES I AM TALKING ABOUT MYSELF, THIS IS MY PAGE, I WRITE THIS IS OFTEN WHAT I DO, NOT ALWAYS) 😀 Sorry I had to get that out the way. Anyway, when I got my Disability, Chronic Pain Syndrome, it then upgraded to the 22827c360539999fff306fa99d5f1775‘Devils Disease’ Fibromyalgia it took things from me, abilities to do things, loss of many things I would before do, friends, family, respect, love, it gives sufferers the attributes and feelings of Motor Neuron Disease and Parkinson’s Disease I could go on. But I am a great believer in Karma. As I sit here now I would say 80% of my immediate family don’t think I am disabled, the 20% would be my Partner, two sons and closest friends. Not one family member is ‘cool’ with Fibromyalgia at all, they say like my friend in the USA did “Shaun has changed” And it gets boring and you do smile after a while, but you learn to surround yourself with people who don’t talk about it and you just have fun with, my partner, sons, close friends and a few on-line also. It is ‘Normal’ I have friends from School, these guys are all super cool, they mock my disability, so it’s all good, I wouldn’t have it any other way. To one mate I am ‘limpy’ for example 😀 This is how I want my disability to be, sadly around certain people it is near impossible because THEY have the problem you see?

Starter pack for the judgemental or is it just 'mental' :D

Starter pack for the judgemental or is it just ‘mental’ 😀

1dd6d21b566548f6552659025a6749baSome of my friends are people I done football with, coaches, players, players families, kids families, for 15 years till I had to stop 5 years ago now, some from school, guys I knew inside out, guys I held hands with at funerals of their parents, friends who are in-fact blood, people who you treat as blood, like Family. These people I know and they know me. When the Disability hit most were all “Oh Shaun I am sorry” I was like “Don’t you dare, no sympathy’ and it was never mentioned again. They all get it now 100%. I can’t make plans with a good mate who is a chef for example, we are REAL good mates, very close, as close as a brother should be. When I cancel they are all cool. With Family no understanding at all. I am sorry I have to say this, the person who said it will read this. I was told over the phone by a family member “You are always in bed” and “You never go out” At first I was angry but them my anger turned to “They are the ones in pain, not me” So again glance at the image above quickly and read it again

See, when you lose things, and they keep going, doesn’t stop, it becomes your ‘Reality’ and you understand and respect this is the way it is. Once you get to that way of thinking you can moveimgres-5_med on, you begin to smile again and be at peace with yourself and as I say, surround yourself with people who enjoy life, people who laugh every day, people like me who demand we have fun. So I go back to what that person told me, I said above “They are the ones in pain, not me” is when I figured out the nasty hurtful words and other issues. I am 41 and I love to learn, I need to learn, I have an open mind on ALL subjects and I believe this is healthy and needed, both apply. So when I understood the other person, the person who couldn’t get why “I am always in the house” or “I am always in bed” (Neither of which are true, not that I care, I don’t judge others) I understood that they were the ones, sadly, with the problems. See I learnt not so long ago, people who attack others with words, words the target won’t hear, mock or joke about a person in their absence, they are the ones with deep rooted problems

220px-Two_Dimensions_of_Emotion.gifThe people I surround myself with are just amazing people, Partner, kids, mates, whoever but others I can’t figure out, so I stopped. I realized they were figuring me out, or trying to figure me out so I gave in, if a person can’t figure a person out or doesn’t get a certain person I say sever the ties, walk away, stop trying to 2nd guess when you ARE wrong about people. Why spend time and brain power and time trying to figure a person out? 😀 How sad is that? I leave a smile because I have only very recently figured this out. I take the smile back and feel sad for these people. Not many, really, a handful. My parter will say “I don’t and can’t feel your pain or understand your mind especially on medication, BUT I AM HERE AND I LOVE YOU” that is all I needed to hear from the woman I love. She judges nobody, in our 25 years knowing each other as kids, primary school kids to now as adults late 30’s and 40 ish I have never once heard her say 1 (ONE) bad word about another. So ‘Surround yourself with the right people’ comes into play, I am around a goddess in every sense of the word, make no mistake I am the luckiest lad this side of Mars for managing to convince my partner to spend the rest of her life with me, so for that, I am blessed, happy, relieved! and in love. When all is said and done, this blog was fun, it made me smile because I demand I smile, to be the opposite is to not live, so easy choice right? Well not really, I know people who have killed themselves who have what I have, I know people talking about, people who have tried to take their life, people who were laughing one day and dead the next, some hide away from the world, I guess I hide away from MY world, the world I was born into, but I keep hold of the world I created for myself, anyone is welcome in, just knock the door, I will put the kettle on 😀

This ring true for anyone?

This ring true for anyone?

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People die, many are worse, but this is bad, real bad, it makes loved ones not talk. Agreed loved one? I have changed, this changed me, try and be nice aye?

So look one final time at the image above. Makes sense now right? I have defined a meaning to it’s fullest, words from the Dalai Lama, and that’s hard to do right? Some of us can ‘Feel everything so deeply’ We are the ones who hurt the most, who take bad news the worst, we are the ones when say? one of our kids move out takes it hardest. It comes with the territory. To be at total one with yourself, to understand you in any shape, form, health whatever is hard to do. But once you can see it clearly it opens up amazing things in your mind. The pain sucks for sure, the medication sadly is enjoyable as it takes the pain away. I am ready for almost anything, I can take almost anything and I can understand almost everything and I now understand other people, I see them clearly now, lost, pretending to be what they are not, not on purpose, it’s just their ways and I respect others ways. I guess what I am saying is, I respect YOU for what you are, even if I have no time for you or I don’t like you, whatever, I respect you. Respect me back please. So this is for all my friends I lost, who are lost, this is for the people like me who are defined by the images I added. I never ask for sympathy, I would however like certain family members to just walk into my home and say “How you doing today you fragile fool” 1st of January and look what I did, I will leave you with the image of how 2014 ended and how 2015 started, and I wouldn’t have it ANY other way, these are battle wounds, I look at all my bumps and bruises as that, my prize for daring to live for daring to laugh and have fun in life. My new years resolution is to sort my sleeping pattern out, I will try but I am not holding my breath,  for long anyway…. Happy New Year 😉

 I Dropped the hoover on my ankle/shin and ripped some skin and 'I think' tore some ligaments. No break.. But agony and bruised like a break

I Dropped the hoover on my ankle/shin and ripped some skin and ‘I think’ tore some ligaments. No break.. But agony and bruised like a break

Now go have one last glance at that image at the very top and see if you understand it now 😉

Shauny

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The Pain Of Love – Poem

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Along comes illness, pain and more to cause distress

You expect a certain person to stay at your side. never regress

life gets too hard for them, so they bail, leave you be, need a new address

Leave you hurting and angry, a new life awaits, but lets not cross that bridge

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Over 20 years of  love so young, trust and lust, what happened to us

I never understand when people can’t get others have this illness

Would you leave someone with Cancer? It’s the same so drop your head

what I do? start again, back to the beginning? Why am I filled with dread

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 illness caused this, showed itself, tried to destroyed us

It comes back for more, soon I have nothing left to hold

I have the love of 100 men for you, I wish you understood

I don’t know what pain you suffer watching me, but I try

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I became a new Shaun, a trade happened without asking

It took me away and brought back a broken version of me

I know what’s what, but I know love beats everything in life

The weight of love will hold us together, you need to trust me

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Life can be cruel and hurtful, but only if we let it in and entertain it

Allow it to crush us, kill us, make us different, change the rules

We can’t allow that to happen, too much at stake, its called love

A life filled with moments and memories, we can’t forget them

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In the end we have each other, this is all we have, we keep it

We allow in a love that is so bright we lose sight of anyone else

A love so strong not even a bomb could break it or harm it

We run the show, never let go, I will never not notice you

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